Can you see the other side of the river?

So there are some major changes you want or need to make in your life.  You know what they are, but they seem so far out of reach that you just don’t know how you will ever be able to achieve them.


In truth change is usually an on-going process, especially major change.  But often even though the end goal is not yet in sight and you struggle to think how or even if you will ever get there, there are steps you can take to make the bigger changes seem less of a daunting prospect, through the smaller goals you can set to get you to the end result.


Imagine it’s like a wide river.  You stand on the bank and try to see the other side.  You know it’s there, you can even imagine what the other side looks like – a beautiful, positive place, yet you can’t see it, and you can’t think of a way to get there.  And then, as you walk along the river you suddenly come to some stepping stones.  Gradually, cautiously at first, you step on to the first stone.  You’re unsure at first, because although you know where you want to go, you’re still not sure whether you can actually get there.  And once you start out on the stepping stones you can’t go back, you don’t want to go back.  But you step on to the first stone and then the next one, until you are gradually making your way across the river.  And the further across you go, the more confident you are that you will make it safely to the other side.


Then you realise that your view from the stepping stones has changed.  You’re no longer just looking at the stones ahead of you, now you can see some greenery, trees? Bushes? Grass? You’re not quite sure, but you know you can see something.  And as you get closer you realise that it’s the other side of the river.  And now you’re more confident, your goal is in sight, and you know that all you have to do is make it across the stones to get there.  And then eventually you step off the last stone, and you’re on the other side of the river.


Those stepping stones are the small changes, the small goals you reach in order to get to the other side of the river, which is the big change, the ultimate goal you wanted to achieve.  Every stone is a goal.  And every time you reach one of the small goals, you are a stone closer to the ultimate aim, the other side of the river.


Are you confident enough to step on to the first stone?


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