why apologise for who you are?

Have you ever apologised to someone for who you are, or the way you are, or for something you typically do?  “I’m sorry, I’m really shy/opinionated/I don’t speak as eloquently as you/I have a common accent,” to name just a couple of examples.

 

Whenever you apologise to someone for being who you are, you are essentially saying that who you are is a bad thing.  But is it?

 

What do you apologise for?  Why do you feel the need to apologise?  And if you didn’t, what do you think would happen?

 

Being you is not something that is wrong or needs to be justified by way of an apology, you can change the things you feel the need to apologise for, but you should only seek to do so if that is really what you want.  But even if you feel the need to change certain things about you, be that shyness or outspokenness, or the way you speak/write/come across, that still doesn’t make the way you currently are wrong.

 

So next time you feel the need to apologise for who you are, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Why am I apologising?”  And instead of apologising, let the people you would be apologising to make their own minds up about who you are, rather than you feeling the need to justify it to them.

 

Don’t apologise for who you are, you haven’t done anything wrong.

 

 

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